I wanted to use the 10 second rule that was displayed on THIS POST, to show you how that rule can either work for you or against you when getting a black woman to give you her number or accept a date with you. I’m going to show you how a majority of black women with standards go about picking a potential date. 

To do this I’m about to show you how men can pretty much appear similar, by using the word SWAG, that you hate, but   plays a major role in a woman’s decision to date you.  

Here,  we have Kanye West, Pharrell and Jay Z.. All three are sporting the same color/style of glasses.  I’m using these 3 men because you are familiar with them.

You are familiar with the way that they dress, as in familiar with their SWAG.  All 3 have their own different styles and ways of dressing.  They are well put together and people tend to like their styles.  Given the option of these 3 men (pretending they are not rich celebrities) a woman is going to choose the one they are most attracted to NOT off of their style, but really off of other things they like about them IN ADDITION to their style.

Because they are so stylish a woman that sets her standards on a stylish man will look for OTHER things besides their great fashion sense. She is not going to spend 10 seconds focusing on how bad their appearance is.. That is a plus.

Then we have this guy Donald who is a very popular comedian.

Donald may be just as rich as the 3sum above or he may be broke. That info is not necessary.  But he has on the same color/style of glasses as the above but look at his SWAG/STYLING… The comedian actually looks similar to Kanye’s hair grooming. Kanye’s jacket also appears to be some sort of plaid.

Neither are fully shaved. A non fully shaved appearance may be considered unkempt. Plaid shirts are more than likely to be assumed nerdy or corny. But it’s really all on how you pull everything together. This guy may get turned down without being allowed the opportunity to let a woman get to know him.  

Now in the average guys mind he will simply chalk it up and say her loss. But no, it’s his loss. The less physically appealing you look the lower amount of women will be attracted to you.

Now, if you don’t agree with me, or don’t understand what I’m saying. I give you this photograph.

How many women do you think would go crazy to date this man? (Minus knowing that he is a celebrity) Now go look back at the last 3 pics and look at the DETAILS in the photo..  If women are not even giving you a chance change the small details….

And one step further. What about this guy? You think women are lined up to date him?

His hairstyle is messed up. BUT, he is a wrestler so it’s acceptable. BUT, he would literally have to start off the conversation with his name and occupation for a woman to be open to accepting his hair style and she may still be unable to get past the hair.(At least a black woman) This guy may not realize that his style and personality are not all that appealing to the average black woman that he comes across..

Now, how many women would line up to date this guy?

This is the exact same guy pictured in the photo above with the crazy haircut..  Details make all the difference…

This last photograph is to say that if you are not going to look “The standard” or status quo then realize you are going to have to do some serious talking and displaying of your personality in order to let a woman get to know you and not get dismissed solely based off of your appearance.

In addition to the clothes and hair, your watch, shoes and level of confidence goes into her decision rather to date you or not. No, that does not sound like something you want to hear.  You may think it’s stupid. But it is what it is. Accept it as truth. Instead of fighting against it, let this knowledge work for you in order to attract more women to you. The more women that are attracting to you the higher chances you have of getting a woman who is right for you. 

So I’m not saying change who you are. I’m simply telling you that you are in full control of the way you want women to percieve you.  The same way you look down upon a woman with her cleavage out… Women look down upon men who have bad presentations.. Perception is everything… 

As always, choose wisely. Think, plan and execute.