This was partly inspired by an article today I read about Swizz Beats & partly by real life circumstances….

It seems like everyday somebody is getting caught up or at least implicated in a cheating “scandal”, it makes you wonder if true commitment still exists. With smartphones & social media it’s so much easier to have access to people you normally wouldn’t and the temptation to cheat is at an all time high. So I ask is that “back in the day love” gone? I’m not saying cheating didn’t exist back then, just stating that it just seems the norm now. So why be in a committed relationship if you’re going to cheat? I understand things might not be going well at home but you have options, you can leave or work it out instead of creeping around. Yea being with the same person can get mundane year after year, but what happens when the excitement of doing it doggy, froggy, and whatever else style with your creeping partner fades away? What if you put those same energies that lift you out the bed at night with the one you supposedly “love” to cheat with someone else were used in your relationship instead?

I know things happen and I’m far from perfect but what about the devastation caused by cheating? What about your character, the effect on your children if you have them, the lack of morals and character on the part of you and the person your cheating with? You give them the blueprint about everything that’s “wrong” in your relationship so of course they’re going to seem the exact opposite of the problems your having at home, but when the truth finally comes to light where are they gonna be?

Are you really naive enough to believe that this fairy tale “relationship” that y’all are carrying on while one or both of you are having relations with each other is gonna last? It’s built on lies and deceit. People make mistakes but to me cheating is one of the most selfish things you can do, be truthful and give your partner the option of whether to stay or go. Be single and do whatever you want but playing with people’s emotions and lives never turns out well in the end.

This is the microwave society. If it’s not going “right” get something else real quick, trade it in. So I guess commitment for most people is temporary or material based at best, which is sad. Where’s the true love? That 20+ year marriage nowadays does it exist or are we just standing by pretending until what we think is a better opportunity comes along?

And if we leave one person for another that we’re cheating with do we really believe that’ll work? That it’ll remain exciting when the bills and  all the other realities of life now have to be dealt with? Do you really think the person cheating with you is one of character and that you can trust to build a future with or are you thinking at all? Is the sex really that good? And lastly, what about the person you left? Do you care about their emotional well being after being betrayed by someone they once thought loved them? The impact on the kids is a whole nother’ topic. I just wonder how you can teach them morality if you don’t display it yourself and they look at you as a role model.

I personally believe the people that mess with involved or married people deserve whatever comes to them if they knowingly put themselves in the middle of someone else’s situation or family. So if the sex is so good that you wanna be on the next First 48 or Snapped found in the trunk go ahead. Or if you already have it planned out what to tell you kids or your family about your scandalous  ways good luck. But again I ask where’s the real love? Does it exist and who if anyone shows it anymore or knows what true love is?

In my Lil’ Wayne voice Does anyone know “How To Love” anymore?????