So this guy Ken Ro, sent me a link to this video..
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After watching it I had to deem this as unrealistic. But truth is women really do pick mates like this.
This lady has her right to have her personal likes and dislikes. She made her winner and loser judgements based upon a few words. She turned down the geek who said he was studying to be a screen writer. Looks wise I would of gave him the loser card, job wise I would have given him the winner card. But he can only get one card so he would have received the loser card.
The tall black guy happened to help disabled kids.. Okay, so he has a heart of gold. That doesn’t mean a woman is going to be attracted to him. While shows like this are indeed entertaining I believe that they add to the American publics already false perceptions and fallacies on who and how they should date.
NO, it’s not ok to date the nice guy just because he is nice and has a good heart. So many women do just that and end up mistreating and dogging out the nice guy. Why? Because she really is not attracted to him. She choose him because he is a nice stable guy.. Who doesn’t want a nice, stable guy?
Good men often times are left thinking that women make bad decisions and that they are missing out by not choosing them. That is not true. Had she picked you solely based upon your niceness she would not cater to you and give you the love that you deserve as a human being.
Over time her charm and slight affection for you would wear off. See, the majority of humans are attracted to people 1st by physical attraction. A lot of people fail to understand this rule of reality that I deem common sense so they end up making statements that women are SHALLOW. They tell their buddies that women just don’t like nice guys.
Those who choose mates simply because they are nice actually have low self esteem which results in very low standards. Do you really want someone picking you based upon their “He will do” factor?
We all have hormones and certain things that turn us on. It takes several things to keep a long lasting relationship. People who are simply willing to settle for someone because they are nice or stable are just as bad as people who are mean. Both simply choose mates and use them for thier goodness.
So the next time someone doesn’t pick you, please by all means don’t think they are losing out. You may have just dodged a bullet. People can not help who they are attracted to. You want someone who is picky, someone who knows what they want and desire. You want a mate who picks a mate based upon their long term ability to be happy with that person.. You do not want a woman picking you based upon you being able to fulfill their current void. Rather that void be financial, emotional or other things.
Fulfilling a void is a good way to get into someone’s life and allow them to get to know you. It should not be the sole reason they choose you as a mate.
Good people have to learn how to pick a mate that actually appreciates their goodness and is also mentally, physically AND sexually attracted to them. Good men think women don’t like them but truth be told a good man has a higher chance of being picked by a woman who won’t appreciate him in the long run. So stop letting these women pick you. You are supposed to pick them. Raise your standards, look currently presentable and go after the woman that you really want. After you get her attention make sure that she is really into you. DO NOT get so caught up in your feelings for her that you fail to realize she may not be that into you.