Everyone talks about the lack of “good” men, that women outnumber the men, and how women are often left searching for their equal. My question is if you’re a “good” man why would you settle for ONE woman when the odds are in your favor? What reason would you have not to have a SQUAD? I don’t mean like 20-30 women but at least a good starting 5!

Here’s the blueprint:

The ALL-STAR (s):

You wanna start with your ALL-STAR, because this the cornerstone of your team and the one you spend the most time with. She gotta be RIGHT!!!! And possess most if not all the qualities you would seek if you were gonna make her the main chick. Hell this is the MVP, so if she sticks around long enough she has the most potential to one day make it to wife material when and if you ever wanna slow down. She looks good, is intelligent, and a head turner. She could have any man wife her but she met you first, you put it down and now she’s not going anywhere anytime soon. She’s beautiful so you treat her good but you can’t over compliment her like all the other dudes, your angle has to be way different! Make her laugh, say off the wall stuff to her out of the blue, be unpredictable. You have to do something special for her regularly, like send flowers or take her on a vacation or two. For her to stick around you gotta at least make her feel like the main chick, telling her you love her & she’s the ONE regularly (make her feel “special”). Occasionally or often (depending on the woman) these players WILL become disillusioned with the team and it’s goals and you WILL have to Woo her back with something special, that shows them they are st*rs of the team! A big ticket item or trip has to be budgeted within the salary cap for unexpected outbursts! The st*rs need to be kept happy because you can’t win a title without them!

Now for the remaining  women you have a lot of slack on how to handle your player rotation. You can try having two or three all stars (Miami Heat style) and run your team that way on your championship run or keep it low key and just get some role players. Going for the title could get complicated as the all stars might compete to be the MVP instead of playing their positions thus creating problems with cohesion & team chemistry, leaving you as a coach in a  possible situation where you have to trade or cut one of them in order to stay headed for success. You have to be the Phil Jackson of your team catering to the big egos while keeping your eyes on the prize, but also have the ice cold veins that allow you to make whatever cuts are necessary for success.  Pages: 1 2 3 4

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I don’t condone any Man laying his hands, or head, on a woman; however, we all know there are times when emotions take over, and Rage becomes an uncontrollable action.  I don’t think that happened here.  It could be a Simple Publicity Stunt… or it could be something else entirely.  The point is… We Don’t Know!  I know this all makes for good nonsensical gossip but like Public Enemy used to say… Don’t Believe The Hype!

We all know HER persona… She is a Rah Rah Chick from the jump!  And They BOTH are Attention Whores.  It wouldn’t surprise me if this began as some publicity stunt… and then the joke was on Chad.  Evelyn may have orchestrated this to get out of the marriage… Why… This is my theory. (I may as well introduce one just to show how ridiculous these “Theories” can get)

Let’s talk about the statement Kissy quoted from Evelyn, in her Latest Blog Post on this situation, when the statement was directed at BBW Jennifer Williams, as it pertained to Jennifer not being “About That Life“.  I will first say I didn’t/don’t keep up with the show “Basketball Wives” and have seen maybe, five to seven episodes, the entire time it was on the air.  But if Evelyn indeed said that… it is an Eye Opener into her thought processes.

Evelyn jumped at the chance to be “Wooed” by Ocho!  I do seem to recall her letting him smash on the 1st night!  And that’s not a knock on her, but it does show how much of a Player she is!  She knows how to get them hooked! I suspect she does have that Good, Good, as she has left a few B-Ballers stuttering.  Ochocinco, being the Cake Daddy he is, got caught up… Hook, Line, and Sinker.

But forget that... let’s just consider his status at the time…

6X Pro Bowl Receiver, 3X All Pro Team, 2X AFC Receiving Yards Leader, 2006 NFL Receiving Yards Leader, Star of his NFL team (Cincinnati Bengals at the time), Seeking a Championship, and very much sought after in the league. Couple that with the fact he was All Over the Tube! ESPN Sportscenter for Outrageous Antics, Dancing with The Stars, VH-1 Dating Show “The Ultimate Catch“, Social Media Giant on Twitter, and more!

Now look at her former Fiance, and step-Father to her Child, Antoine Walker… 2006 NBA Champion with the Miami Heat, 3-Time All-Star, 1997 NBA All Rookie Squad… this was in his hey day!  So all this to say…

She is used to being with Athletes at The Top of the Food Chain!

To Evelyn, “Being About that Life” was being in pursuit of the Hottest thing out.  I mean she had a Hit Reality TV Show on the air… Even if I didn’t watch it much at all… Millions of Fans did!  She has a Successful Shoe… and Burgeoning Apparel Boutique Business which she upgraded to only being eCommerce.  So it makes practical sense that she would want to remain in the Limelight, if for No Other Reason than to remain a Major F’N Factor!  Didn’t she diss a Humble Ordinary Working Guy on the show?  I recall her Trainer or somebody trying to get at her.

Knowing this… She is not about to settle for a dude whose career is on a Downward Slope!  Now this is an Overstatement because Chad is a Hustler Too!  He still had deals with Gatorade and Reebok so he wasn’t at all washed up… but I doubt his career will survive this.  And I believe she knows it!  Maybe she wasn’t looking for Love… Maybe she is looking for security for the Life she has become accustomed to.

In my theory… She fears being on the B-List!  His fledgling career could somehow affect her and her businesses.  She is a Reality Star after all.  Her Popularity and viability in the Marketplace, depends mostly on Public Opinion & Perception.  I mean she doesn’t really want to go back to being just a Business Owner, having to compete for your business.  So if most of her Majority Base (Females), perceives her as not “walking the walk” then she could lose revenue!  So once her Cruise Ship (Ocho) started to sink… it makes sense she would jump ship!

I Could be Completely Wrong!  She could be devastated over this happening… along with her current family tragedy.  Maybe she is afraid of being hurt… maybe she wants to be the one in control… who knows?  But consider this… since we are exploring theories…

Ocho left a Bad Situation in New England with one of his worst production years of his Career.

Miami wasn’t about to sign him to a Multi-Year Deal.  He was becoming…

Ain’t that some Shit? LOL!  Speaking from Chad’s perspective… “Just when I need this chick the most… she tries to clown me, and send me to the Poor House, while everyone in America empathizes with her!”

Maybe she is looking to score a New Reality Show with K-Michelle called “We’re Not Going to Take It Anymore!” 

Of course I am just spoofing the situation in this writing, and I hope she doesn’t take it to heart if she reads this.  It’s written because  I sense that A Lot of People will put a spin on “The Real Situation” in the coming weeks.  So much so, that I won’t doubt if the story becomes something neither Chad nor Evelyn could have imagined!

I actually like Evelyn… I don’t consider myself a “Fan”, but I admire the Hustle and I think she is a Hot Chick and I wouldn’t mind Smashing… Ha ha… but My Opinionated Truth be Told… Evelyn doesn’t strike me as a Woman that really falls in Love with Men anymore.  She always seemed, to me, to be out for hers.  Maybe she has Daddy Issues… I don’t know.

But one thing is clear… When she got with Ocho, his career was in High Gear.  To go from that… to teams wondering if they even want you on their roster… is not the “Life” she is about!  She is a Bonafied Hustler No Doubt!  And she will undoubtedly turn this into a triumph for herself.  I dig that about her… At least she won’t be moaning and groaning about what happened! Her sales probably went up 20% since all this started!

If K-Michelle had something to sell, I’d bet she’d be raking it in right now too!  She is raking up Appearance Fees… Believe It! And she has a Stellar Voice so when her Album drops… She will get the Sales!  The sympathy dollars… are dollars nonetheless!  But when I speak in this column I have to show empathy for all the BS Chad is about to go through!  As you can see MemphHitz can’t even Open his Mouth to defend himself without the situation getting worse for him… He gotta put Toya out there to defend on his behalf! ha ha!

(All this Jazz is Madd Funny to me because it would seem like we have Bigger Issues in the World to concern ourselves with!)

Ocho Will Not go Bankrupt Over This… Let’s face it… Homie has been Ballin’ for years!  But this can’t help his Marketing Image.  Having made all of this Public, will cripple his Future Income Potential.  As evidenced in losing both a NFL 1 Year Contract and another VH1 Reality Show deal all in 48 hours!  The sponsorships will follow soon No Doubt!  I can’t help but think that She Knows That! That, in and of itself, makes me a tad bit weary about her position in all of this.

Again I could be wrong… but consider this… To get Head-Butted… she had to say something to push him in that regard… I’m just saying!  Maybe she was looking to push his buttons so that she could Execute her Exit Strategy!  I don’t know… Maybe this is different, but she doesn’t strike me as a Ride or Die Chick.  She does seem like a “I’ll ride this muthaphunka til it gets a Flat… then I’ll leave that Junker on the side of the Road… and get a New Car!” type of chick!  It will be interesting to see how she lands on her feet after this one.

Evelyn is No Dummy and questionably a Victim!  But I don’t think she will allow herself to be victimized, as this situation plays out on Entertainment’s World Stage.  Unless it comes with a Paycheck!  I wouldn’t be surprised if she had a New Line of T-Shirts Coming out that say…

“You Split My Head…

… I’ll Split Your Bread!”

(That’s Mine Eve… Cut Me In When You Make the Tees)!

Keep in mind that she knows what comes with being “Wifey” to an Athlete.  She will probably raise the issue of fidelity with Chad via the media, in the coming reports, since this was supposedly started over an argument about a Condom receipt.  This will get the majority of the Female Sentimental Vote for this ordeal.

But consider this ladies… She knows, and you know, Athletes are not going to be faithful in most cases.  Too Much Ass comes their way, Daily, for them to honestly adhere to such a thing.  Loyalty should be the main focal point, and not the sins of the flesh!  When the wife of an Athlete, starts arguing about fidelity in the relationship, She Obviously Wants Out, and needs an excuse to do so!  She knew who she married, and it was kool until the Marriage was Properly Consummated!  Makes you say Hmmmm…

I won’t make any further implications because ultimately I don’t blame Evelyn… People don’t get over on you… You allow yourself to get got!  So the ownership of this situation is solely on the shoulders of Ocho.  He should have never let her push him to the point of violence!  When it gets that far… You’ve lost!  You must have been listening too tuff to Big Snoop Dogg… (I’m going to get in trouble for spinning this one… Ha Ha)

Remember brother… Those are just Songs… Entertainment!  You can’t be going around laying your Goon Hand down on these women out here these days!  They got Teams of Lawyers ready to chop you up faster than a Cross Cutting Shredder Machine!  They plan on your inability to control yourself.  Then you find yourself in Court catching a Criminal Case and in Civil Court losing all your Hard Earned Paper! Don’t fall for it brothers!

On a lighter note… I don’t think any woman is a Lost Cause.  I would love to Show Evelyn How to Love again!  Even if it was only for about 2-3 Weeks.  At least when it is over she would have a parting smile and I would have Chick on my team That Is a Major F’n Factor! lol… But she isn’t into giving the Slightly Above Average Hustlers a shot… But if she is… I would be happy to make her acquaintance!

I’m sure we could have a couple Hot & Steamy Nights before she maxes out my Infamous Three & Out Rule!

The Moral of this Blog is… Ladies… Quit messing around in Impossible Situations that you find yourself manipulating during the course of the relationship, for mere Capital Gains!  Such a thing takes the Fun outta Life, and a Toll on your Mind, Body, & Soul!  If you simply want Money… Do what we all have to find a Legitimate way to do…

Hustle… Hustle… Hustle… Hard!

(Click Above to See How)

Fellas… Stop acting as if you don’t know that a woman will sense your weaknesses, and later test you in that regard!  Chad may be in a delicate Head space right now because of concern over his Career! You might look at it and say he has other options… but to him, he has been playing the game at a High Level since he was a kid!  And it is a Part of Who He Is… He Loves the Game!  His concern is Football right now… He thought his personal life was stable… but that’s because his mind wasn’t at home!

Don’t Think About It Fellas… Know About It!

With average cats the common problem is usually the Money, which can inhibit the progress of Fruitful Relationships.  All Men know… at the core of it all… Your Woman does not want to struggle with you through you turmoils!  Fix that Immediately!  Do whatever you have to do, but don’t let her see you Sweat!! One Phrase for that Homies…

Step Your Game Up!

(Click Above to See How)

Til Next Week Remember…

These words aren’t too Introspective… They just come from a Hustler’s Perspective… Chuurch!

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Her latest relationship with 25-year-old Casper Smart is no different from the last. The Puerto Rican pop star fell in love with her back up dancer, and it wasn’t love at first sight.  Their attraction developed overnight Casper told ABC News.

“It was just very natural, you know, natural how it happened,” he said. “There was nothing before, no flirting, no nothing.”

J-Lo has a habit of choosing her men from the pool of men she works with.. Enrique Iglesias who J-Lo is currently on a summer tour with mentioned that it must be quite difficult to work with the people you love.  But Lopez sees no problems with dating in the workplace.

“I have done it many times and it’s difficult with some people, and some people, it’s easy. Just depends on their personality.”

Casper is definitely living a fairytale dating such a mega-star. But the back-up dancer does not let the lines between romance and who is calling the shots become blurred. He plays his position when it comes to dating and working for his famous girlfriend.

“Sometimes, I tell her something, you know, give her notes. But at the end of the day, you know, it doesn’t matter what position is what, because she’s the boss, you know?” Smart, 25, told ABC.

Dating any woman who is as big of a star as Jennifer Lopez can itself be difficult for any man, especially when he has to play the background.  But being such a hopeless romantic it’s all about the idea of  happily ever after  for the 45 year old singer.  Jennifer says she will never give up on the fairytale of love.

“It can be difficult for anybody who has to stand by my side, but at the end of the day, I know that I deserve that,”  For me the dream is the failytale. I will never give up on that dream, J-Lo sais when asked if she was willing to get married again.

Which explains a lot about J-Lo’s dating behavior.

WATCH THE VIDEO INTERVIEW Below

I really enjoyed this interview with J Lo. It really gives you some insight as to why she calls herself ‘Jenny From The Block”. Regardless of the fame and fortune she’s just like every other girl who wants to grow up and find real love.

Figuring out how to surprise your significant other who has everything in the world can also be difficult. But Capser seemed to do a good job last night when he blindfolded the singer and lead her to a surprise party on a luxury yacht for her 43rd birthday extravaganza
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View the Party Pictures in the Gallery Below

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Ted has been living the life money, cars, women, whatever….

He lives with his girl but does whatever he wants. Comes in all hours of the night & morning if at all and while there may be an argument or tears from his girl she still takes care of him and they’ve been together awhile. He has love for her but isn’t in love with her. So one day he’s out and about and sees someone that catches his eye off the bat. This one seems different he thinks and takes the necessary steps to get to know more about her and eventually pursues her. By chance they end up working at the same place, they conversate, exchange numbers and a little while later Ted’s breaking up with his girl and moving in with Trish. Ted’s been in like, not love before but this is different. They have a ball together and though they go through drama of their own seem to generally have love for one another.

One day someone tells Trish that Ted is still creeping with his ex (which he’s not) and in the middle of their biggest fight Ted out of fear of losing her pops the question and Trish says “YES!” It wasn’t an ideal proposal but they have a dream wedding and start a life together. They have two children and decide to relocate. In the process of adjusting to a new state and the other stresses of kids, bills, family, and life in general they start to grow apart. To the outside it seems like everything’s together but that’s far from the truth. They cheat, lie, fight, but stay together. They break up, make up, wake up and try it again and again. Eventually they decide to call it quits, with each of them realizing they love each other but can’t make either one happy. They go through the dark days ahead feeling the pain of years past in addition to the pain of their children dealing with the divorce. They go to war over everything, the kids see and hear too much, eventually they heal and become friends and great co-parents. Dark days and sleepless nights turn two people into stronger, wiser, and more faithful beings that understand the joy, pain, sunshine, and rain relationships can bring. They hopefully have learned from their mistakes and move on with life…

This may not be your story, may have some or no similarities to your present, past or future relationship but hopefully leads you to question the “happiness” of life. Everyone ultimately wants to be happy and ever since Adam and Eve in the garden man was meant to be with woman and woman was meant to be with man so that’s the quest of life. To hopefully find that person that would be the missing piece to a happy and fulfilled journey.

Too many times though we act as the settlers that founded new lands. We stake a claim to someone and stay there no matter what, like the posters on the wall we are there hour after hour, year after year. Scared to leave because we think someone might find gold where we only sifted through dirt. Like gold miners we keep sifting and sifting, but looking up we actually fall deeper and deeper into the pit of sadness. We want gold, we want oil, we want happiness but we instead get sadness and turmoil with a few laughs sprinkled in occasionally. Two people have either drifted apart or were never truly together in the first place. Some people settle for comfortable. Meaning the kids are good, the bills are paid, there’s money in the bank, a roof over your head or whatever’s important to you at the time. But can you really put a price on true happiness? How can you be comfortable when you have love for but aren’t in love with the person you go home to everyday? How can you flirt, cheat, and/or fantasize and then lay next to someone you supposedly love knowing none of the fantasies involved them? How can you accept someone cheating or disrespecting you but then come home to them day after night, year after year? What made you think settling was acceptable? Made it alright to accept existing instead of actually living?

I’ve lost enough people and seen enough things to know that life’s short, so why live it with someone that either never did or doesn’t make you happy? People seem so scared to be alone and deal with the person in the mirror that they’ll settle for “cool” or just enough. I don’t even like my food cool, so why would I accept that in another human being? Others keep waiting on change. The same person you’ve been with for X amount of years you expect to one day come home to and they’re all of the sudden the man/woman of your dreams. Take the rose colored glasses off things don’t happen like that. People are who they are and you either accept them or you don’t. What good’s a nice family portrait when you know it only shows actors and actresses like your favorite movie poster?

Eventually everyone has to deal with the person on the other side of the mirror. I think after years of complacency the image staring back at you becomes more and more unrecognizable. As for me I’d rather be happy and single than settle for cool or miserable. It takes a strong, confident person to be selective in who they choose to spend any part of their life with.

I used to laugh at the people I saw at the movies and eating alone, but now I commend them because for whatever reason they’ve decided not to conform to a random warm body in an otherwise cold bedroom and life. Marriage is great, relationships are great, love is wonderful as long as you don’t just settle for a façade that’s far short of the intended meaning of any of those things like many people do just because they can’t or refuse to do life alone…..

When you’re really confident and happy with yourself you’ll realize who and what makes you happy and won’t settle for less, when you’re not you’ll settle for anything, appear to have something, and wake up daily questioning whether you have anything at all. The choice is yours, I choose to be happy and “cool” or comfortable just isn’t enough and never will be…

I only have one question: Are you happy? And if not what are you gonna do about it? Time waits for no one..

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This is for the confident, intelligent, charismatic gentleman that doesn’t feel the need to be in a committed relationship at the present moment or this can be adjusted for the confident lady that wants to reap ALL the benefits of a NSA (No strings attatched) lifestyle…

Everyone talks about the lack of “good” men, that women outnumber the men, and how women are often left searching for their equal. My question is if you’re a “good” man why would you settle for ONE woman when the odds are in your favor? What reason would you have not to have a SQUAD? I don’t mean like 20-30 women but at least a good starting 5!

Here’s the blueprint:

The ALL-STAR (s):

You wanna start with your ALL-STAR, because this the cornerstone of your team and the one you spend the most time with. She gotta be RIGHT!!!! And possess most if not all the qualities you would seek if you were gonna make her the main chick. Hell this is the MVP, so if she sticks around long enough she has the most potential to one day make it to wife material when and if you ever wanna slow down. She looks good, is intelligent, and a head turner. She could have any man wife her but she met you first, you put it down and now she’s not going anywhere anytime soon. She’s beautiful so you treat her good but you can’t over compliment her like all the other dudes, your angle has to be way different! Make her laugh, say off the wall stuff to her out of the blue, be unpredictable. You have to do something special for her regularly, like send flowers or take her on a vacation or two. For her to stick around you gotta at least make her feel like the main chick, telling her you love her & she’s the ONE regularly (make her feel “special”). Occasionally or often (depending on the woman) these players WILL become disillusioned with the team and it’s goals and you WILL have to Woo her back with something special, that shows them they are st*rs of the team! A big ticket item or trip has to be budgeted within the salary cap for unexpected outbursts! The st*rs need to be kept happy because you can’t win a title without them!

Now for the remaining  women you have a lot of slack on how to handle your player rotation. You can try having two or three all stars (Miami Heat style) and run your team that way on your championship run or keep it low key and just get some role players. Going for the title could get complicated as the all stars might compete to be the MVP instead of playing their positions thus creating problems with cohesion & team chemistry, leaving you as a coach in a  possible situation where you have to trade or cut one of them in order to stay headed for success. You have to be the Phil Jackson of your team catering to the big egos while keeping your eyes on the prize, but also have the ice cold veins that allow you to make whatever cuts are necessary for success.  Pages: 1 2 3 4

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I’ve talked to some females who’ve had the misfortune of reading and believing the myth in Steve Harvey’s book about a woman waiting 90 days before they give up the cookies.. My response? It’s your body do what you want, but why let this miscellaneous ninja dictate your decisions?

Mr. Harvey is on his 3rd marriage and his current wife is on her 3rd marriage also, so who are we following for advice on relations and relationships? When did he become such a guru? Not passing judgement but Mr. Harvey says he’s a christian but promotes the 90 day rule, while the bible states to wait until marriage for sexual relations. So unless he thinks he’s P. Diddy and remixed the bible even by his own stated beliefs this makes NO SENSE!

Who gave this ninja the keys to the cookie bag? And what formula did he use to come up with 90 days? If a guy waits 90 days, gets the cookies then dashes on the 91st day is there a point to waiting? And if that same guy waits on you what’s to say he’s not smashing something else in the meantime? Some guys will honestly wait on you *cough.. very few*, some won’t but it should be about how y’all are relating and feeling each other that determines whether you should wait 90 days or 90 seconds..

Either way there’s no guarantee of success or failure every situation is different. And any grown woman that listens to some miscellaneous ninja to determine what she does with her body needs help. I didn’t know Steve Harvey died on the cross and rose on the 3rd day, that wasn’t in my bible. But if you wanna listen to him and wait the 90 days I just hope your cookies ain’t stale and the dude is still around to reach in the bag when you open it up!

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THE QUESTION:

Why is it that Spanish women do things for their man that black women don’t?

My lady who is Spanish will clip my toe nails and massage my feet and my ex-wife, who is black, refused to.

 Submitted By: Richard via Facebook 

Model & Actress Eugenia Silva

KISSY’S ANSWER: 

Richard, This actually has nothing to do with race at all.  They are simply two different women.  Personally I would not clip your toe nails or massage your feet, BUT I have done so for other men. I have done so for men that I really liked a lot who made me feel a certain way.  Seeing as to how your ex was your “wife” and she actually married you means that she too had to like you a lot.   This is where it gets interesting….

Your new spanish girlfriend is vying for the position as wife. She is clipping your toenails right now, but if you marry her and she happens to see some of the same things your ex wife saw in you, do you think she will still clip your toenails for you?   

Obviously you are dealing with a woman right now who enjoys catering to her man. But my question to you is. Are you now a better man to your new girlfriend than you were to your ex wife?  Are you doing more for this spanish woman than you were doing for your ex black wife? Do you now behave differently and as more of a gentleman and a provider.

What I am asking is, have you went and got yourself some Act Right? Have you changed yourself in order to attract a woman that will be more catering towards you? Are YOU still the same person Richard?  I would be willing to bet that you have changed.

Think about it and you will see that more than likely you are no longer the same man that you once were.  To attract what we want into our lives we have to create change within ourselves in order to attract the object of our desire. 

Thoughts?

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BARBIES

Lately, I have had more than a few men that I’ve gone out with compliment me on the way I look without make-up on. They say that it’s rare to see a woman who looks naturally beautiful. Initially I didn’t pay much attention to the compliment, but after hearing it repeated by completely different types of men. I started to think!

Although, I personally don’t have to wear make-up. I wonder why men give women in general, such a hard time for wearing make-up if they know it is rare that a woman will be beautiful without it?

Isn’t it a woman’s right to attempt to look her absolute best? If every woman can’t be beautiful without make-up, what is wrong with her using it to boost her confidence? Would you rather her accept that she is not the most beautiful without make-up on? Would you prefer that her self esteem be lowered? Every woman wants to feel beautiful.

I’m confused as to why you say it’s what’s on the inside that counts, yet you want her to work out so that she can be aesthetically appealing.

It’s not like men are saying they are annoyed because we leave make-up on their shirts. Would it really please men if make-up no longer existed? I don’t understand…. What are you truly getting at by saying you don’t like the make-up?

Also a lot of men know for a fact their woman is not that attractive without make-up. Do you really want her going to work without make-up having to be around all those naturally beautiful women ?

Makeup is good for me, you and everybody…

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“You better lose yourself in the music, the moment
You own it, you better never let it go
You only get one shot, do not miss your chance to blow
This opportunity comes once in a lifetime yo”

These are the words of the talented hip hop artist Marshall Mathers, better known as Eminem.

In my mind, this is the most inspiring song penned by anyone from the hip hop community. Eminem is basically asking, if you had the opportunity to come face to face with your dream, would you take advantage of it or would you let the opportunity slip away?

Lose yourself is another way of saying “establish tunnel vision” or “remain focus.” With that being said, you can lose yourself in more than just the music. If you want to become a doctor, lose yourself in those science books! If your dream is to become a business mogul, lose yourself in those business classes! And if you want to become an actress, then lose yourself in those acting workshops!

Losing yourself in the music, in those science books, in those business classes, and in those acting workshops can pay off huge dividends for you professionally, but losing yourself in your relationship can prove to be detrimental to you emotionally.

Here’s a story. My students know that I will tell a good story from time to time to get my point across.

Melissa is a young lady who had enough ambition for three people. Her dream was to become an influential journalist and TV personality. I guess you can say she was trying to get her Oprah Winfrey on.

Melissa did everything that she was suppose to do, according to society, to accomplish her goal. She went to college and excelled, she completed a prestigious internship, and she made many high powered connections. She was well on her way.

That is until she fell in love, or what she thought was love. Now don’t get me wrong, falling in love is a beautiful thing. The problem was, in the mist of her being in relationship bliss, her ambitions went out the window. She was so busy supporting her significant other’s dream that she totally ignored what SHE wanted in life.

Now Melissa’s boyfriend is considered a hometown success story, while she is stuck wondering “what in the hell is she going to do with her life now.”

Black women are the most supportive women I know. However, some black women tend to be so supportive that they sometimes lose themselves in their relationships. They sometimes sacrifice their goals and dreams to jump onboard their mates’ pursuits.

Ladies! It’s okay to support your man. God knows that if it wasn’t for the constant support I received from my wife, I wouldn’t be where I am today. But there has to be a balance and a good man recognizes and understands that balance.

If there is no balance, someone is going to be looking back over their life with that feeling of what “could have been” or what “should have been.” At that point, you and your mate are potentially headed toward breakup city with you using resentment as the vehicle.

As Eminem said, “you better lose yourself in the music.” However not just the music; lose yourself in the things that can help you reach those attainable goals that you have set.

Don’t lose yourself in your relationship! If your significant other doesn’t want you to strive and achieve and better yourself, then you have a decision to make. “Would you rather live in his world, or live without him in yours.” –Gladys Knight

Article by George E. Stewart

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What do I mean by that? You have not put a high price on your vagina and require that a male meets those standards before he can get the time of day from you.

“It is your right to expect that a man will pay for your dinner, your movie ticket, your club entry fee, or whatever else he has to pay for in exhange for your time.” Steve Harvey

Some women in order to get a date with her a man has to take her to a nice restaurant with white linen cloth, low lightning and what not, which is going to require a man to dress up a little. He may even stop to get flowers.  This date is going to require timing for both parties to get dressed appropriately and for him to make reservations. Nothing wrong with that. That is how she feels about herself. That is what she feels like her time and getting to know you is worth. This is the Louboutin shoe wearing woman.

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 “@KissyDenise- Here is the reason black men date outside their race… Black men want to marry a woman who has absolutely no problem being submissive & knowing/playing their role(s). Finding a black woman who will do this (without being a headache) is extremely difficult. There can only be 1 King! Black women have a problem allowing men to take the throne/run his Kingdom. Others use their brains & run the Kingdom (through him). He’s ok with that “ http://twitter.com/#!/askcheyb

Black women are not submissive. Nonsense! You just don’t know how to make her that way. Why are so many black men stating that they want a Michelle Obama type of woman yet they themselves are not a Barack Obama? They totally lack the traits of a man who encompasses a woman being submissive to him.

It is said that a black woman who grows up in a home without a father is unwilling to submit to her man. it is true that black women who grew up in homes without a father may not know what submission is and usually don’t have that level of respect for men. When a man who is a loving, protecting leader finds a good woman she will naturally slowly submit to him.

Some women submit to the wrong men. These women will submit to a man who did not display good leadership skills, along with also acting  in her  best interest.  Walking away feeling like submission has messed up her life up and feeling like submission means being a doormat.

A father protects, gives his daughter what she wants and needs while teaching her about life. Fathers raise their daughters to be independent, meanwhile spoiling them and making sure they have everything they need. A good father sends his daughter out into the world with knowledge instilled in her by him. She leaves home with knowledge, purpose and a sense of direction. Quite naturally the daughter has a great amount of respect for her father.

For the most part a majority of black men do not play their correct role in the household or relationships with black women. Therefore their woman is unwilling to submit to him. A lot of black men will only play the role of sex partner and protector.

Black men will often meet a black woman and instruct her to be strong, be independent and don’t ask him for anything. She will do exactly that. But, now that she has been strong, independent and done everything on her own, you want her to bow down and turn her life over to a man. She did not get to where she is today by being submissive in every relationship she encountered. Had she done so she may not be the successful woman that you are now interested in.

The successful single black woman who dates black men is more then likely going to do everything on her own, so of course she is going to lack the respect needed to submit to a man.  Submission has to be earned. It should only be given when you have asked for her hand in marriage. Even if a man came along who would assist her by giving her knowledge to better herself and mow the lawn sometime that would be a start.

You can’t expect a black woman to submit to you when you are the type of man that offers her no assistance. Why should she submit to a man that has her changing her own oil?  Will you at least help her locate a repair shop when her car breaks down? Did you make sure that she had AAA?

You should not expect a woman to submit to you if you have not found your own direction and purpose in life. Steel sharpens steel You can’t come with a empty pencil expecting  to write the laws of the house. Even if lead was in the pencil she would only use the other end to erase what you wrote. A man has to set the tone and be firm and decisive. His instructions should be written in ink.    Pages: 1 2

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