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Once the butterflies are gone

You know the feeling when you first meet and really get to know someone and they have “it”. That feeling, that vibe that makes you wanna see and communicate with them constantly. They have the smooth conversation, the style, the smile, the physical attributes & intellect to match. The feeling’s mutual and y’all become inseparable. It’s a beautiful thing… LOVE, finally!

But with the years also comes the pressures of staying in a committed relationship with all the stress of bills, kids, differences, and life in general. The two of you have morphed into the Huxtables, just characters of what you really should be. On the outside y’all look great but inside its just emptiness where was was a burning flame. You still love one another but now your comfortable, you may have some type of a bond but that spark is gone. You’ve voiced your concerns but they’ve continued to fall on deaf ears, ignored. No longer are you happy just seeing their face, hell now you’ve been seeing that same face for years.

The compliments are few and far between, those little things that used to make you feel special fade and all that’s left is two people coexisting (roommates). Y’all have put time in, hours in, blood, sweat, and tears in building a life together but now it’s just mundane. You feel lost, stagnant, and depressed. Sex used to be exciting but now as soon as it starts you just think about it being over so your duty can be finished.

You both have gotten comfortable, may have put on weight, and no longer have that fly style that attracted you to one another in the first place. You’ve talked about your problems until your blue in the face, year after year, but nothings changed. What do you do when the butterflies are gone?

You don’t really wanna blow it all up but one day out of the blue the person at work, the bar or whatever  starts giving you the attention that you used to get at home years ago. Your old flame from Facebook is IM’ing you, people on twitter are DM’ing you, you’re starting to feel wanted and special again.

It starts off innocent enough, it’s just conversation. Now your on the laptop and texting at night instead of talking to your partner. That feeling is coming back, those butterflies. You’re slowly drifting away…..

Your style is coming back, your smile’s back, you’re starting to feel good again. You thought this feeling was a distant memory never to return. You’ve been waiting for this feeling again for years, so you are sucked right in..

What do you do now? It’s just dinner, just an innocent gift, y’all are just friends, it won’t affect your relationship or your family. You’re at a crossroads. What do you do? Cross the line or go back to where you started, where you’ve invested? That dead end, but comfortable road you’ve been on. That house you’ve invested in, those kids you’ve been raising as a family. Mom and dad, the picket fence..

There’s temptation at every corner, everywhere, and it’s easier than ever to have direct access to whoever you want. No one walking this earth is perfect, everyone makes mistakes… So really, what would you do?

What, if anything would you sacrifice to get that feeling back? Those butterflies that you haven’t felt in a long, long time….

Where would they lead you? Does the old flame ever comeback once it’s extinguished and the years start to multiply? Would you leave it all to gain yourself?

So many questions…..

Those butterflies will at least stimulate your mind though & maybe your actions as well…

Butterflies

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