“Kissy, Kissy… Us men, we love our candy. The Kissy’s of the world keep us (well some of us) on top of our game so we can get us a Kissy. So why do so many women forget what attracted us to them in the first place? Life happens and a woman can quickly go from 130 to 230lbs, slows down, etc. And its definitely not easy to tell a woman she needs to hit the gym. Love can hold you together, but love doesn’t keep you happy. I’m not saying a woman needs to stay teenage size, but keep the fire up. Am I selfish?”
Chris, It’s not that these women forget what attracted you to them to begin with. People in general are lead to believe the many falsehoods pushed by society. The main falsity is that looks don’t count. A average person truly believes that it’s what’s on the inside that counts. So they hold onto this thought that as long as they are a good person they can let their looks go by the wayside. In reality it’s what is on the inside that keeps a person attracted to you. But it’s the outside that attracts a person to you the most. A combination of both is what makes a person who they are. One without the other is not valuable in a relationship.
It’s so odd to me to hear people continuously quote the bible. Yet, they seem to not notice that in the bible it also says, your body is your temple. .
“Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; 20 you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your body,” (1 Cor. 6:19-20).
I guess they skipped past that page….. These same people also cling to all of their material possessions to maintain their personal self esteem, and will be quick to call a person vain if they show appreciation for their body. God put a lot of work into the human body. Where is the appreciation for it?
Anyway, back to what I was saying. I believe that the other partner in these relationships is just as much to blame for the weight gain.. You are the one who silently watched them gain weight and allowed them to be comfortable doing so. Often times a person may not notice the physical difference until after dozens of pounds have accrued. You should notify your mate of this weight gain and help them get to the gym. It’s all about the way you say it. You could always just go out and purchase a membership for the both of you and start working out together. But it should be rectified before it gets out of hand.
Chris I do not think you are selfish at all. I believe that unlike a lot of people these days, you are simply honest.
Why do you think women gain weight after they get a man?